Internet Harassment

Posted on December 05, 2006

I love visiting other people’s blogs. I have over 250 feeds in my Bloglines Feed Reader. I enjoy anything from people’s personal blogs to (gasp) celebrity gossip and of course, fashion.

When visiting the more popular blogs, I rarely read the comments that other people have left. I read the post and if I feel the need, I leave a comment. Then I move on to another blog. I rarely spend more than a few minutes on a high traffic blog.

Well on September 8th, I made the mistake of leaving a comment on a certain celebrity gossip blog with a link back to my personal blog. It was a website that I rarely went to, but they posted about two celebrities I liked and they were speculating that they were sleeping together just because they were photographed having lunch together. How presumptuous to just assume that, right? I kindly left a comment that said something like,

“Could it possibly be that these two celebrities are still close friends and just wanted to have lunch, catch up, and hang out together? I’m so tired of gossip blogs jumping to conclusions just for the sake of making a post…”

I was directing my comment at the post’s author, but apparently, some of the other commenter’s took what I said personally. I didn’t know that till later though…

What I soon found out was that the commenting section of this blog was more like a forum or chat room for insecure people with no respect for themselves or anyone else. They started off by leaving comments telling me to F-off, which soon escalated to a certain young man deciding to speculate about my sexual preferences. He began misquoting my blog entries and changing them to say perverted, disgusting things about my dog and me, saying that I was having sexual intercourse with my female dog and other foolish nonsense.

I didn’t realize that these horrible comments were being left on the gossip blog until the young man that ventured to say sexually explicit things about me and my dog, decided to email me directly. After his first email, I went back to the website to observe the atrocities.

They began at the top and ripped me into tiny shreds. They left no stone uncovered. Once they found my blog, they unfortunately, found out everything else about me too. My wedding photos, my photography website, my website design site, information about my dance school, my family, my husband, etc It went from bad to worse, as they began ripping apart my in laws and husband as well.

And it didn’t stop there… Once they found the other blogs and websites I had, they posted links to them on the comment forum of the gossip blog. I went from getting an average of 50-60 hits a day on my website to well over 350 hits. This was not positive attention though. They posted my email address and told people to spam me. And once they found my mother in law’s blog and her name, they were able to look up our address, see where we lived, and post that on the internet as well!

This lasted for hours and hours and then moved to other comment threads on that site as well. But it didn’t end there. They began talking about me on 2 other websites as well. They even went as far as to make a faux website about me and post copyrighted images and content on that site, as if it were my own.

After 8 days of them harassing, stalking, bashing, and verbally abusing me, things quieted down and I didn’t hear or see much for about a week. During those 8 days, I never said a word to these people. I didn’t deny any of the lies they were saying, I didn’t post anymore comments on the website, and I stopped posting on my blog as well as taking down about 10 of my other websites.

My mother in law helped me save and collect all the information. It had gone from freedom of speech to stalking and harassment. I would go into further detail, but the things these people were saying were so horrible and disgusting, that I don’t want to even acknowledge it.

We thought that they had moved on to someone else and had forgotten about me, but one of the main players in their sick game, Tom, decided it would be fun to bring up the subject of me again. It lasted for another 10 days.

This time, I was pissed. Things had gone much too far and I wanted this nonsense to stop. I had done nothing wrong and didn’t deserve this kind of treatment. My mother in law and husband were pretty sick of it too. They helped me collect and compile all the things that were posted about me as well as the emails that were sent to me by Tom. We also had their IP addresses and soon figured out that these sick retards were doing this from work.

After putting all of the information together and writing a cover letter, we sent a copy to each of the stalker’s places of work, as well as 4 copies to different branches of the FBI. Yes, things had become that serious.

The stalking and harassment continued though… It has calmed down a lot, but I’m still afraid to be online. I decided the only way I was going to feel safe to blog again was by getting a bran new blog. A whole new chance at life, it seems. I don’t ever want those people to find me again. I have made a huge effort to not let me real name be revealed on this new blog or links to this blog have anything to do with my old blog or real name.

Now you know why I have a new blog!!!!!!!

Filed under: Frustration , Random Info , Technology



7 Comments

  1. Alicat says...

    That is such a shame Tiger. I can’t believe that harassing people is how they get their kicks.

    It is foul – degenerate and just plain disgusting.

    I’ve got a food blogger who is obsessed with me. She checks
    my website sometimes 20-30 times a day! There isn’t anything I can
    do about it — but deep down I wish I could figure out a way to stop her. :) Oh well.



  2. Cindi says...

    Hey Girl!

    I know how much you have gone through will all of this. The people (I don’t even like calling them that…they’re inhuman) who were attacking you are sick and lost individuals.

    You handled yourself with grace and class, Tiger.
    I’m so very proud of you. I love your new ‘home’ here in cyberspace :wink:



  3. Pattie says...

    Hey Tiger, I was thrilled to see a post from you! I am glad you didn’t let those jerks run you off the internet for good. You know, this has been a lesson for me, too. Unfortunately, the web can be a place of evil. You never know who is on the other end of the keyboard, you know? Those who are responsible for doing this WILL get theirs in the end. Every last one of them.
    I have found that many of those gossip blogs are filled with people who like to inject their venomous poison onto others. I have witnessed it, too. They will tear other people to shreds, probably so they don’t have to feel so bad about who they really are…a bunch of losers!!!!
    Anyway, sorry for the long comment. I just missed you! (And your MIL, too!)



  4. wolfbaby says...

    It’s so horrible that you had to go through that. Sorry that It hasn’t stopped yet. Hopefully you stay safe at this site. It’s a shame when folks have to be so mean like that. Take care ok. :silly:



  5. Maurissa says...

    Oh my goodness. That is awful to hear about. It makes me wonder about some people. :sad: You are a wonderful person, and the least deserving person of harassment and that immature abuse.

    I’ll get used to seeing “Tiger Babble” on my blogroll. :)

    Hang in there!



  6. Alicat says...

    Please come back soon and keep us updated on what is going on in yer life! :) lol



  7. http://student-loans-buto.blogspot.com says...

    I’m gone to convey my little brother, that he should also pay a visit this website on regular basis to get updated from most recent information.






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