The Birth Of My Daughter

Posted on July 30, 2007

July 25th

I woke up Wednesday morning and felt like crap. I was just sooo done with being pregnant. I was willing to do just about anything to get the baby out of me. I just didn’t want to be pregnant for another minute.

The 26th of July was my Nana’s birthday. I thought that would be a good day to have the baby. I prayed and hoped she could fo something from Heaven to help me along.

In desperation, I started looking up how to induce labor with Castor Oil. I found several good links. I also went onto the Baby Gaga Forum to see if Castor Oil had worked for others.

I ultimately decided to try it, but was not looking forward to it. I emailed my midwife about it and asked her if it was okay. Fortunately she wrote back quickly and told me that she had another idea and to come into the office tomorrow. I was slightly disappointed because I knew this meant no baby on Nana’s birthday.

July 26th

I woke up feeling like crap again, even though I got almost 13 hours of sleep. I just didn’t want to wake up pregnant one more day! It was really starting to wear on me…

My midwife (Adrian) was really busy, but thankfully squeezed me in at 3:30 that afternoon. She had Natanya (the assistant midwife) strip my membranes. It hurt even less than the time before when the other midwife (Tracy) did it. Plus she took a lot longer, making sure to be really thorough.

Then Adrian mixed some fresh Angelica into my Black & Blue Cohosh tincture and instructed me to take 2 dropper fulls every 30 minutes for 6 hours, stop and eat some spicy Mexican food on the way home and then have sex later on in the evening. Quite the chore chart, eh?

Well, I did everything she said. I started taking that tincture before I even left the office, making my first dose at 4:00pm.

On the way home, my husband and I stopped at Wal Mart to pick up a few things. Afterwards, around 6:00pm we stopped at Margaritas and ate. I had a Chili Relleno with fresh chopped Jalapeños on top (my request). I also had some of their super hot Habanero “Tough Guy” sauce and boy, was that shit HOT! I mixed it in with my rice and downed it all. I had a few irregular contractions during dinner, but nothing big.

I kept taking my tincture every 30 minutes until 10:00pm when I finished the bottle. I was still having some irregular contractions that were getting kinda uncomfortable. Nothing out of the ordinary though. At that point I decided maybe it was time to try some sex…

An hour later, the contractions were a little more uncomfortable, but still very irregular and I wasn’t too concerned. I decided to go to bed… I had Dan check my cervix and make sure that the contractions weren’t accomplishing anything. They weren’t. So I went to bed.

July 27th

I suddenly woke up at 3:00am with contractions that felt like extreme menstrual cramps. I didn’t think much of it until I got up and started walking to the bathroom and had another one that made me stop and lean on the fridge. It lasted for about a minute. I resumed walking to the bathroom and right after I got off the toilet, I had another contraction that made me get down on my hands and knees. I moaned loudly as the pain that radiated through my hips was indescribable.

My husband heard me from bed and woke up to see if I was okay. While I was telling him that I thought I was ok, I had another contraction. This one hurt even more than the last one.

“I think you should call Adrian (the midwife)” he said to me.

I didn’t want to wake her up at 3:30am for a false alarm, so I thought he should check my cervix again. Well, I’ll never forget the look on his face! “Call Adrian now! You’re in labor!” he told me. “How do you know?” I asked. “Well you are dilated A LOT. I don’t even know how much… Maybe 6 cm?” he said. “Oh God!” I said and grabbed the phone.

Adrian told me to meet her at the birth center at 5:30am. It was about 4:15am at that point. So we started getting ready and I called my mom to tell her this was finally it. My contractions were about 3 minutes apart already.

We left several minutes later. To my surprise, Dan was nervous. I don’t think I had ever seen him nervous before. He just… doesn’t get nervous about anything. He always the one who’s got it together. Me on the other hand… well, I’m usually the nervous wreck. For some reason, we had switched places for this.

We’re driving to the birth center and I’m going, “You don’t have to drive fast. I’m okaaayy…. AHH…” *moaning and heavy breathing through a contraction* “… I’m okay. Let’s stop at Dunkin Donuts and get coffee!” lol You should have seen the look of confusion on that poor man’s face. He reluctantly stopped and we got coffee though.

We got to the birth center at exactly 5:30am. Dan carried in the bags and I walked in smiling with my coffee. That was short lived as I quickly got another contraction. I was okay standing up though.

Natanya brought me into the purple birthing room equipped with a big bed and birthing tub. She checked my cervix and confirmed that I was 6cm dilated. She complimented Dan on his cervix checking skills and he beamed.

I didn’t settle in much because I thought that I would be there for a while. The contractions were getting worse though… Dan became really supportive when he saw how much pain I appeared to be in. I don’t think he was prepared to see me like that and it freaked him out a bit.

I sat on the birthing ball for about half an hour and tried to breath through my contractions. It was getting harder and harder though. By 6:30am I couldn’t hold a conversation anymore. The contractions were right on top of each other. I decided that it was time to get into the water at that point. I still had my underwear and a sports bra on. Yes, I was modest even in labor!

I could not believe the pain in my hips though and kept wondering why no one warned me about that. If I could have completely removed the hip pain I was feeling, it would have felt just like the painful menstrual cramps I usually experienced with my periods each month. Pretty tolerable in my opinion. But the hip pain made it almost unbearable.

Each contraction felt like it was 50% stronger than the last one. I just couldn’t believe how quickly everything was escalating. I still thought I had a long time to go though… It seemed like it had to hurt a lot worse than it did.

The last 5 contractions I had right before giving birth, were just horrendous. I was relatively quiet through labor. No screaming or yelling. Just a little bit of moaning and I remember saying “I can’t do this,” and “No, no, no.” It was about 6:50am by then.

All of a sudden, I had a huge contraction and I couldn’t help but yell about it. Dan kept telling me I could do it and to breath. I couldn’t have done it without him. As the contraction ended, I suddenly felt something “wash over me”. I don’t know how else to explain it.

As the next contraction came, I knew it was different. I didn’t feel the hip pain and I suddenly wanted to push. And so I did. Suddenly Dan was telling me to take off my underwear quick. Apparently my water hadn’t broken yet and as I was bearing down, I was pushing the fore waters out. With the next contraction, I pushed and Natanya reached in and broke my water for me. I didn’t know it at the time, but I felt a huge relief of pressure when she did. Apparently my amniotic sack was so thick, she couldn’t break it with her fingers. She had to cut it open!

The next contraction came and I pushed again, long and hard and I felt her head come all the way down the birth canal and pop out! I sat there, for what felt like forever, just breathing. They told me to reach down and feel her head. That was so neat!! I asked what color hair she had and they told me it was brown. I just held her head and smiled until I got another contraction. I pulled my hand out of the water and grabbed Dan’s arm to push again. This time, I pushed her out all the way and lifted her up out of the water and onto my chest. I did it! It was 7:09am and I had finally delivered my little girl.

Reportedly the first thing I said was, “She came out!” I must have thought she would be in there forever. I felt so proud of myself. Everything went perfectly. She was beautiful and perfect.

And who knew I could dilate from 6cm to 10cm in less than 2 hours? I’m like a dilating champion or something!

Delivering the placenta was interesting. It was huge!! (Usually a placenta weighs about 6 ounces. Mine was over a pound!) Then Dan cut the umbilical chord after it stopped pulsing.

Everything went so perfectly it was just amazing. I wouldn’t change anything about the whole experience. Not even the pain, because really, it hurt a lot less than I thought it would. I just feel so blessed!! Praise the Lord for this little miracle!!

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She Has Arrived

Posted on July 27, 2007

She was born at 7:09 AM this morning after 5 hours of labor and 5 minutes of pushing… (Only 4 pushes!)

She weighs 8 Lbs and is 19 Inches long. And she has brown hair and brownish-blue eyes. She’s so CUTE!!

We are home now and resting. I need to go take a nap, but I will try to post my “birth story” again later on tonight or tomorrow…

Thanks for all your support! :-)

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It’s Show Time!!

Posted on July 27, 2007

I am in labor now! This is the day I’ve been waiting so long for!!

Please keep Dan and I in your thoughts and prayers as we embark on this amazing journey.

I started having irregular contractions at about 6:00pm. Around 3:00am, it turned into real, full blown labor! It’s currently 5:24 and my contractions are currently 1 minute long and 2 minutes apart and I am completely effaced and about 7 cm dilated.

I have Dan’s laptop here at the birthing center with me… I will post again when the baby is born!!

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No, It’s not time yet…

Posted on July 26, 2007

I’ve got you all on pins and needles, and then I don’t post for a few days… stupid me!

No, I haven’t had the baby yet. I’ve been on a non stop marathon to get this baby out and I haven’t been able to think of anything else or function. I have definitely lost my mind.

No, it’s not (just) because I am a control freak and want to be done with this pregnancy. I have lots of other concerns too, most of which I don’t want to discuss… Evenso, the baby is not getting any smaller, so the sooner she comes out, the better in my opinion. I’m not getting an episiotomy, so these are things I need to think about!

Okay, so I left you thinking I was going to start taking the Black and Blue Cohosh to induce labor and that it was actually going to WORK. Hmmm… Well, it didn’t.

Here’s the juicy details of the last couple days… (Beware TMI)

I started taking the Black and Blue Cohosh tincture Tuesday morning at 6:30am. I took about a half of a dropper full at 6:30, 8:30, and 10:30. I didn’t get any contractions at all, so I decided to take it once an hour. By noon time, I started having some intense contractions but they weren’t regular. Around 5:00 they seemed to be getting more regular so I decided to time them. They were about 8 minutes apart and lasting 60-90 secs. I continued to take the B&B for a couple more hours. Around 8:00 though, the contractions went away completely. So I decided to stop taking the B&B and get some rest.

Around midnight, my husband and I had sex (sorry TMI) and that started the contractions going again. I went to bed and tried to get some sleep. The contractions became really painful and woke me up about a dozen times during the night, but I was able to go back to sleep each time, because of the space between the contractions.

By 7:00am Wednesday morning, I couldn’t sleep through them anymore. They were much more painful and much more intense than anything I experienced before. I thought that I might be in labor, but wasn’t convinced. I waited an hour and decided to time the contractions and see if they were regular. They were about 15 mins apart at that time.

I figured okay, that’s good, well I’ll try to get some more sleep to save up energy. I was able to go back to sleep and sleep until 10:00, at which point I woke up and realized I wasn’t having contractions anymore.

I waited till noon time, with no contractions and decided to try the B&B again. I took half a dropper full, once an hour, for 6 hours. I had probably 6 contractions during that time, but none that hurt. By 6:00pm I decided to stop taking it because apparently my body was not in the mood to go into labor!! I didn’t want to waste it…

I haven’t taken any today yet. Instead, I am going to go to the birthing center and get my membranes stripped again. Then she wants me to go home, eat spicy food for dinner, and then have wild sex. :w00t:

She said “What we are doing here is what I would do with a natural induction but a little gentler- when you induce someone, you don’t just involve the cervix, the uterus, or the hormones- you do it all at the same time as that is what the body wants to naturally do. So, the cervix gets stimulated by stimulating the membranes, the uterus gets stimulated by the herbs, and the hormones get stimulated by the sex… and the intestines help give the uterus the idea that it wants to contract by the spicy food.”

And if that doesn’t work, at least I will have had a good meal and a little fun.

SO………. needless to say I am frustrated beyond words at this point, which is why I didn’t bother posting. I’ve had a million things to do as well. I have been getting 4-5 packages in the mail every day of product samples that I have to post about on my fashion blog and that is very time consuming. I have to review and write about so many different products right now, that I can’t even keep track of them. Plus I am getting dozens of emails asking if I received the product samples yet and did I like them and hell… I don’t even know what I did with them half the time.

This baby wants to get out of me as much as I want her to leave and neither of us are succeeding. I can tell that she’s uncomfortable and doesn’t have any room to move around. I wouldn’t want to be upside down for this long either… Plus the hiccups… The poor kid. I think both of us have enjoyed this bonding time together, but we’re both ready to move on and become our own person (again). I think we will both feel great triumph when we finally look into each others eyes.

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Belly – Week 40

Posted on July 23, 2007

I went to see my midwife tonight at 6:30pm. She finally understood how badly I wanted to be done with pregnancy, so she offered to strip my membranes. I jumped at the offer! “Yes please! Anything would be great.”

It didn’t hurt as bad as I thought it would. And to my surprise, she said “Wow, you seem to be tolerating this really well.” I just shrugged my shoulders like “Eh…” and she said, “You are going to be great in labor!” *beams* I knew I had a high pain tolerance, but that pretty much confirmed it for me. I don’t feel nervous anymore.

Before I left, she also gave me a tincture of Black and Blue Cohosh and told me that it was strong, potent stuff and I would probably go into labor tomorrow afternoon if I started taking it once an hour as soon as I woke up. YAY!!!!

Finally… I can’t wait for tomorrow morning to come.

So, in anticipation and hopes that I will have the baby tomorrow, I had my hubby take some Week 40 belly pictures. Here they are:

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Moose Crossing

Posted on July 23, 2007


Week 40

Baby’s Length: 18.0 to 23.0 in.

Baby’s Weight: 7.5 – 8 lbs.

Baby’s Size: Moose

Okay, so the baby isn’t actually the size of a moose… In fact, I’m the one who feels like the moose. Or maybe a hippo… Or perhaps a small elephant. Either way, this baby is not the only one who is gigantic.

My due date was yesterday… It came and went with barely any contractions to speak of. I had lots on Saturday though… Enough to make me dilate another 1/2 cm. I’m up to 4-5 cm dilated and 90-100% effaced. I mean for cripe sakes, I should be in active labor by now!

WARNING: TMI below!

Saturday, I tried relaxing and naturally inducing labor with sex, nipple stimulation, walking, and a homeopathic Labor Balm that my midwife gave me on Thursday. It has wonderful things in it like Black and Blue Cohosh and Primrose Oil. She said that it was very effective in causing contractions and if I used it, would hopefully go into labor by Sunday.

Well Sunday came and went with no baby. I decided to try other ways in induce labor… I went swimming for several hours, went for a long walk, a bumpy car ride, and had hot peppers on my sandwich for lunch. Then we went grocery shopping and that was a lot of walking too. All the while, keeping my belly lubricated with this special “Labor Balm”.

And here I am. Monday morning. The day after my due date. And I’m still pregnant.

I’m trying to decide how desperate I really am… I haven’t tried Castor Oil, enemas, or the unrecommended route of fasting and dehydration. None of those really sound like much fun. I’ve heard very conflicting reports on Castor Oil, but have had several women tell me it worked for them.

Then again, my friend brought on her labor by having sex. Seriously, who is that lucky? She went at 38 weeks too.

That’s just not fair.

My midwife said that I am too anxious and I need to relax. She even recommended that I have a half of a glass of wine. So Saturday night, I had a half of a glass of wine and then snuggled into bed with my hubby and chatted with him for over an hour. That always helps me relax.

Doesn’t bring on labor though.

I have another appointment with the other midwife today… (She’s not my favorite.) Hopefully she will be able to give me a little hope though. I am getting quite discouraged, really uncomfortable, and hugely frustrated.

Will let you know if she says anything useful… And if nothing else, I will be posting some more belly pics soon!

Pray for me!! I need to have this baby NOW!

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My Due Date

Posted on July 22, 2007

Today was my due date and no, I didn’t have the baby…

Baby Slings at Nurtured Family

pregnancy week by week

See how my baby is doing

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Belly – Week 39

Posted on July 17, 2007

Yes, I’m still pregnant… I don’t feel like my belly has gotten any bigger, but it definitely feels like the baby has gotten a lot bigger. I can feel her head pressed down as far as it can go, and her big bum is pushing on my ribs. She is really long…

Dan and I are both small people and come from families made of people mostly under 5’7″. I was pretty petite before I got pregnant and I have a short torso. That being said, you can imagine how uncomfortable I am at this point!

It is pretty clear that we are going to have a big girl and I have a feeling she’s going to end up taller than both of us! And she just keeps getting bigger and bigger every day. I don’t know how I am ever going to fit this baby out of me…

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Pass The Watermelon

Posted on July 16, 2007


Week 39

Baby’s Length: 14.5 to 21.5 in.

Baby’s Weight: 7 lbs.

Baby’s Size: Watermelon

** If you are pregnant for the first time
and less than 39 weeks along,
do yourself a favor and
don’t read this post! **

You didn’t expect to see a week 39 post from me, did ya? Well let me tell you… I wasn’t planning on having to make one.

So… 7 more days left till my EDD. This is sooooo not amusing.

My midwife said last Thursday that the baby weighs about 7 1/2 lbs… Again, not amusing. She was small for her age before… and now she’s bigger than average. Just what every woman wants to hear before she has to blow the baby out her bottom…

I can’t sleep, I am uncomfortable every moment I am alive, except when I’m swimming in a pool, I have absolutely no bladder control whatsoever, I have heartburn, acid indigestion, and diarrhea (No, I don’t need Pepto Bismol), my stomach muscles feel like I pulled and/or strained them, but I didn’t, and I’m quite convinced that the baby hates my pelvis and wants to see it suffer.

Last night, she was grinding her head into my public bone and cervix so hard, I thought I was being raped from the inside out. At least when I’m in labor, that pain will have a purpose. This pain was definitely not needed and not accomplishing anything, making it absolutely impossible for me to tolerate it. I tried to grit my teeth and deal with it, as she squirmed about, but I just couldn’t do it. I burst out crying, much to my husband’s dismay, and continued to sob for over an hour. I was trembling and shivering (hormones? emotions? insanity?) so much, that today I feel like I was hit by a trailer truck.

I’m tellin’ you… natural ways of inducing labor just don’t work. I tried everything on that list to get this baby out. Well… everything but Castor Oil. I even took measures into my own hands and jumped on a trampoline for over half an hour yesterday. Even that didn’t work! If anything, the baby seemed to enjoy it… This child is nuts!

And what is up with everyone telling me to have sex? It’s like suddenly, when you become 37 or more weeks pregnant, intercourse is no longer a taboo subject. You even have strangers telling you “Oh have sex with your husband! That will help make the baby come out!”

Telling a hugely uncomfortable pregnant woman who has never felt less sexy in her whole life to hop into bed and do “the naughty”, is almost cruel! I feel like I need a fork lift to even get in and out of the bed, not to mention the gigantic “baby bump” that is conveniently located in the worst spot imaginable. It really makes engaging in that sport, uncomfortable, very not sexy, and quite difficult, if not almost impossible.

It would be nice if what made the baby go in, also made the baby come out… However, after 4 weeks of doing it once a day, I have come to the conclusion that sex isn’t working.

All but ONE of my “Due Date Buddies” have had their babies already. Two of them delivered on 7/7/07 and not by c-section!

People say, “Oh the baby will come out when she’s ready! Babies can’t be rushed!”

Do they think that saying that is helpful or in any way encouraging? Maybe if I was a dumb, happy blonde on Valium it might be.

Okay, I do have some positive things to report…

At my 38 Week appointment with my midwife, she told me (once again) that I am having an incredibly healthy normal pregnancy and she is so impressed with me. She says the baby is gaining weight perfectly and I am gaining just the “right amount” of weight too. She even brought in 2 different “midwives in training”, to let them prod my belly to show them what a “perfect baby” felt like and the “perfect amount of amniotic fluid” felt like.

My midwife says to the other girl, “Feel her belly,” and puts her hands on my stomach. “Feel how she has a lot of amniotic fluid and the baby is laying to the left? That’s because she’s eating really healthy. Remember the woman that came in right before her? She had almost no amniotic fluid at all and that’s because she isn’t eating properly or exercising enough.”

I beamed. I’m eating healthy and I’m a model pregnant woman!

See, now how can I complain about how uncomfortable I am when I know that I am growing a healthy, happy baby in there?

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Water Birth Video

Posted on July 13, 2007

You have to watch this amazing video… Water birth is so beautiful.

(Warning: It’s graphic!)



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