Images

Posted on August 09, 2006

Image. People today are so worried about their image. Worried about what other people will think about them. Whether it’s the way you dress, the way you fix your hair, or the way you smile and shake someone’s hand, we’re all concerned about our image and the way other people perceive us to be.

We all know people judge. Even we who are being judged are doing the judging. When you meet someone for the first time, you can’t help but scan them up and down and come to a quick conclusion on who you perceive them to be. Sometimes our first conclusions are correct. Most times, they are wrong. So how many people out there are perceiving you to be someone you’re not?

Could it be that no one really sees us as the person we’d like them to see? Could it be that we’re all wasting our time trying to be a certain person, or look a certain way so that people will accept us? And is this something we all learn over time and at one point just stop trying? I had to wonder…

Our culture and society today is all about image. Whether it’s makeup commercials, the airbrushed models on the magazines, or the expensive clothing in the stores, image is constantly shoved in all of our faces. And it’s not just us ‘normal’ people that have to worry about our image. Even the models and actresses worry about the way they look. It’s not necessarily that they are genetically gifted, they just spend more time on their image. Why is it so important how we look? Why is the decay of our self images an epidemic in our society? Why can’t we all just be ourselves and not worry about what other people think?

Filed under: Good Advice



It’s not rainbows and butterflies…

Posted on December 30, 2005

…it’s compromise that moves us along.

Compromise. The world should definitely have more of it. If we all learned to compromise more for others, imagine how much happier we would be knowing that we made someone else happy? Imagine how much happier they would be and how much more willing they would be to compromise for us?

By compromise, I mean not being stubborn and demanding that we have our own way, even if it makes someone else unhappy. By compromise, I mean letting something go for the benefit of someone else. It’s about being less selfish and self centered. Are we ever willing to sacrifice for the good of another human being? Rarely. In our culture we are too wrapped up in ourselves and our dreams and our desires to stop and thinking about giving.

Sometimes you just need to let go of our own ideas about what is right for others. It may be we want to share our opinions on cars to someone who is going to buy a new vehicle. Now they might be interested in a Ford, but you hates Fords. So you share that opinion with them. What if they still want to get a Ford? Well usually, we assume, well maybe they didn’t really understand our reasoning for not liking Fords, so we tell them again, in a different way. You rant and rant for a while longer, getting stronger in your opinion and stronger in your decision against Fords, but alas, they still want to purchase a Ford. Instead of accepting that they have different likes and dislikes for styles and engines and horsepower than you do, we usually get angry and frustrated and can’t imagine why they aren’t agreeing with us!! So we go at it again….in our brains we are now positive that Fords suck and we are sticking to our guns on it!! God forbid if we back down!!

Why are we like that? Is it our culture? Is it the way we were brought up? Or is it human nature and us striving for individuality?

We need to learn to compromise for others. You don’t have to change your mind and love Ford trucks, but you don’t have to ruin someone else’s day stating your opinion. And I’m just talking about trucks here!! What about when we do that to our kids about the man or woman they are about to marry? How much more ugly do we get about our opinion when we know it’s going to effect and change that person’s life forever? We need to learn how to compromise.

I think as humans, sometimes we take our feelings and opinions and push them too far until and we are playing God in someone else’s life. Whatever happened to peacefully disagreeing? Whatever happened to just dropping the subject altogether when you know you can’t meet in the middle? Just think about how much more amazing and happy our lives would be if we just learned to compromise?

Filed under: Good Advice , Philosophy



What Matters Most

Posted on November 20, 2005

“No matter what I say,
what I believe, and what I do,
I’m bankrupt without love.”
– I Corinthians 13:3

“Love means living the way God commaded us to live.
As you have heard from the beginig, his command is this:
Live a life of love.” 2 John 1:6

Life is all about love.

Because God is love, the most important lesson he wants you to learn on earth is how to love. It is in loving that we are most like him, so love is the foundation of every command he has given us: ” The whole law is summed up in this one command: ‘love others as you love yourself,’”
Learning to love unselfishly is not an easy task. It runs counter to our self-centered nature. That’s why we’re given a lifetime to learn it. Of course, God wants us to love everyone, but he is particulary concerned that we learn to love others in his family.

The Best Use of Life Is Love

Love should be your top priority, primary objective, and greatest ambition. Love is not a *good* part of your life; it’s the *most important* part. The Bible says, “Let love be your greatest aim.”
It’s not enough to say, “ONE of the things I want in life is to be loving,” as if it’s in your top ten list. Relationships must have priority in your life above everything else. Why? Life without love is worthless. Paul makes this point: “No matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.”

Love will last forever. Another reason God tells us to make love our top priority is that it is eternal: “These three things are forever: faith, hope, and love. And the greatest of these is love.”

Love leaves a legacy. How you treated other people, not your wealth or accomplishments, is the most enduring impact you can leave on earth. As Mother Theresa said, “It’s not what you do, but how much love you put into it that matters.” Love is the secret of lasting heritage.

Knowing this, I suggest that when you waKe up every morning you kneel by your bed , or sit on the edge of it, and pray this: “God, whether I get anything else done today, I want to make sure that I spend time loving you and loving other people — because that’s what life is all about. I don’t want to waste this day.” Why should God give you another day if you’re going to waste it?

The Best Expression Of Love Is Time

Time is your most precious gift because you only have a set amount of it. You can make more money, but you can’t make more time. When you give someone your time, you are giving a portion of your life that you’ll never get back. Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time.

It is not enough to *say* relationships are important; we must prove it by investing time in them, Words alone are worthless.

The essence if love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.

The most desired goft of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolate. it is focused attention. Love concentrates so intently on another that you forget yourse;f at that moment, Attention says, “I value you enough to give you my most precious asset—my time.” Whenever you give your time, you are making a sacrifice, and sacrifice is the essence of love. Jesus modeled this: “Be full of love for others, following the example if Christ who loved you and gave himself to God as a sacrifice to take away your sins.

The best use of life is love. The best expression of love is time. The best time to show love is now.

Filed under: Good Advice , Philosophy , Religion



Gossip and Dirty Laundry

Posted on October 03, 2005

You know, I never thought about it this way before, but civilian gossip is the same as celebrity gossip.

I mean, we always hear tons of gossip (untrue or not) from Hollywood, and the only reason why that gossip is out there for all of us to hear is because the people the gossip is about are famous!

How is that gossip really any different than the gossip we hear about our friends?

I’m not sure how to explain this really, but it pertains to my situation.

After being accused of having Alzheimer’s, Elizabeth Taylor denied it and said, “Tabloids report such things because they have nothing else dirty to write about anybody else.”

Does that not pertain to our life as well? If someone is talking about you behind your back or gossiping about you, isn’t it just because they are thinking about you? If they were thinking about somebody else, they would be talking about somebody else.

So really, if you think about it in a weird way, if someone is gossiping about you, you could actually be flattered by that.

In a weird, twisted way, it means they care about you enough to be thinking about you all the time. Regardless of whether that’s in a negative way or not, is not the point. Yes gossip is usually harmful and mean and nobody likes to be talked about behind their back! But what I am trying to express is that if someone is gossiping about you, even if they say they don’t care about you, they really DO. Otherwise, they’d be talking about somebody else…

Filed under: Good Advice , Philosophy





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