My Thoughts On Circumcision and Genital Mutilation

Posted on June 01, 2010

I’m just entering my third trimester of pregnancy and expecting a baby boy in late August. Since finding out we’re having a boy, I’ve done a lot of research about circumcision and came to the conclusion that there is no way I can do that to my child, despite the small benefits that people seem to claim there are.

As for doing it for sanitary reasons, I think that’s the most absurd excuse. From my research, it really isn’t any more hygienic to have a boy circumcised. In fact, the foreskin is designed to protect the head of the penis from germs. Why else would God have put it there? And if a boy is taught proper cleaning habits, he most likely will not have a problem.

In this day and age, we wouldn’t cut off a woman’s labia in the name of trying to help prevent yeast infections. That would be insane. It’s the same kind of thing… Women have to clean themselves properly in order to not only prevent things like yeast infections and overall odor but we have to take special care to clean “down there” during our periods as well. We face many challenges with our southern regions, but we don’t alter them or cut a portion off to make it “easier” to take care of. That would be… well, really, really dumb.

One thing I have been researching pretty heavily is the “sanitary” reasons. I can understand perhaps doing it back in the days of the Jesus for sanitary reasons and whatnot, but we live in a much different world. Unless a guy is a pig and doesn’t shower or care enough to keep himself clean, or stick his thing where it doesn’t belong, infection shouldn’t be an issue.

I have a friend who is rabidly anti-circumcision… I also have friends who are very pro-circumcision, so I’ve gotten the dish from both sides. My husband and I also have a friend that got circumcised as an adult because his foreskin was unable to retract properly and he was told that getting circumcised would fix the problem. Unfortunately, it didn’t. He now has more problems after being circumcised because there are still dissolving stitches stuck under the skin that never dissolved and the skin is too tight for him to get a full erection, making sex quite uncomfortable. Uncommon maybe, but still alarming.

The thing that bothers me the most is that I fully believe that God designed out bodies a certain way for a certain reason. Circumcision is like telling God his design was flawed and we need to fix it. How rude! We might as well go and get plastic cosmetic surgery while we’re at it…

And I don’t agree with the argument that God is the one that told the Jews to start circumcising. First of all, God told us to do a lot of things in the Old Testament that were later reversed in the New Testament as part of the entire reason why Jesus died on the cross. We were redeemed from having to follow a large set of rules because of that.

The second point is that circumcision back then is completely different than it is now. They didn’t remove the entire foreskin and leave the poor baby boy’s penis bleeding, naked and exposed. That would have been deadly back in a time where clean water, sanitation and medical care was scarce.

The American Academy of Pediatrics and the American Academy of Family Physicians have both said that yes, there are some very small benefits but they are not outweighed by the risks involved in this day and age. Safe sex practices and good hygiene are just as effective.

Health insurance won’t even cover circumcision in at least 16 states now and some private insurance companies refuse to cover it now as well because it’s considered an “elective procedure” at this point.

Apparently, between the 1920’s and 1980’s it was extremely popular and the “normal” thing to do. Studies have now found that it is not only not medically necessary but they are finding more and more bad things are happening as a result of standard circumcision. Erectile Dysfunction being one of them…

Circumcision is an American anomaly. Worldwide, 20 out of every 1,000 infants are circumcised and 18 of those are in the United States alone. Ironically, you can skip making the circumcision decision altogether—which is what the other 980 parents do—and your child will be happy and healthy. The US circumcision rate is currently 56% and dropping every year as awareness about the subject rises.

I always thought it was a standard thing to do, required, necessary, etc until I actually decided to research the subject and actually find out what it was all about. Once I started looking at all the information, including lots of medical studies about it, etc, I’m a little relieved that I bothered to look up information about it instead of just assuming it was necessary and going ahead and doing it uninformed. Thank God for Google!! lol I’ve spent days reading and reading and discussing the subject.

And I’ll tell ya, after watching a few videos of the procedure being done on a newborn, I would never want anyone doing that to my poor little baby… Absolutely no way.


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Two Year Olds Are Like Tornados…

Posted on June 18, 2009

Cleaning up after a 2 year old is like cleaning up after a tornado while the wind is still whipping. It’s like a never ending line of work. It’s a task you can never get “caught up” on, yet if you don’t do it, it’s even worse.

I just put her goldfish crackers into a snack trapper after she spilled her little bowl of goldfish on the floor 3 times after I just vacuumed… and then she took each goldfish cracker out of the snack trapper, put it back into the bowl, and then she dumped the bowl on her lap.

…………….

Sometimes, I wonder why my brain doesn’t just completely explode.

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What the heck?

Posted on July 21, 2008

Has anyone ever wondered why Caillou is bald?

I bothers me…

It bothered me so much that I googled it. And for some stupid reason, no one seems to know! The best answer I could find was, so that he could be universal and so that all children could identify with him.

What hog wash. I don’t want my kid to identify with that whiny, spoiled brat! I don’t know what the heck is wrong with that kid. He’s such a moron! He’s got the most annoying voice of any tv character and he’s always throwing temper tantrums or crying like a baby. I’m pretty sure he cries more often than Rosie.

I really wish there were more non-annoying kids shows on Sprout like The Backyardigans and Word World.

We have Sprout on probably 10-12 hours a day. I know, sick right? I’ve pretty much gotten used to it as just background noise and most shows don’t bother me, but when a show goes up my back like Caillou, it’s hard not to get pissed off!

I have to remind myself that it would be worse… My husband could be watching Future Weapons… OMG the host of that show has to be THE most annoying piece of crap ever. He’s right up there with Max.

Do your kids watch shows that you can’t stand to even be on in your house?

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Watching TV Too Much

Posted on April 13, 2008

One of thing you learn soon after becoming a parent is that kids shows can be really annoying…

Our TV is usually on from 10am till 1am. Whether it’s a kids show or the science channel, we always have something buzzing in the background. And I usually don’t notice whats on either…

The other day I realized that I can narrate an entire episode of Dora The Explorer. I found myself singing the entire intro song… My family told me that I need to get a hobby. lol

Well, when it comes to kids shows, I don’t care. I’ll sit and watch them with my lil girl. If she loves it, I’ll sit and watch it right along with her!! Dora The Explorer, Go Diego, Go, The Backyardigans, The Wonder Pets, and oh does she looooove SpongeBob SquarePants. Her little face lights right up when she hears that intro song!

But when I hear Max and Ruby come on, I cringe. She loves it…and I hate it. That stinking little SOB, Max, I would like to strangle with my bare hands. Every single damn episode, that little shit does something he’s not supposed to do. He’s notty in some way and it ends up working out to everyone’s best interest. Seriously, that show teaches kids that if you do the wrong thing long enough, sooner or later someone will appreciate it.

GAH! I hate that stupid fucking bunny……

The anger is all fresh, as it is on my TV right now.

Filed under: Motherhood , Psycho Babble



Already One Month Old

Posted on August 30, 2007

After The Bath – 08/22

She really loves her baths, until it’s time to wash her hair… Then there is fussing. She’s very opinionated, just like Mommy.

After her bath, she gets wrapped up in a big warm towel and once she’s dry, I massage calming lavender lotion onto her smooth skin. She loves getting her feet massaged.

Visiting Uncle Zach – 08/25

I visit my brother every weekend almost. He has a pool. Need I say more? 😛 My 2 nieces (8 and 10) love their new cousin too. Who could resist this adorable face?

Watching TV With Daddy – 08/26

She loves watching TV, especially with Daddy. This little girl is going to be a total couch potato. She watches Sponge Bob Square Pants for hours, so content. As soon as a different show comes on, she starts fussing. It’s kind of humorous!

Napping On The Couch – 08/27

Already one month old. I can’t even believe it. I mean, it seems like it was just yesterday I was fat and pregnant! I don’t like how quickly time is flying by… I feel like I’m going to turn around and suddenly she’ll be 18 years old. I don’t want that to happen. I’m just trying to soak up every minute of her.

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My Little Princess

Posted on August 14, 2007

My little princess is too good to be true. She’s just so well behaved. I mean, yes she has her fussy moments when she’s looking for the booby, but for the most part, she is a really content and happy baby.

She sleeps from about 1am till about 10am, only waking up to nurse every hour or two during that time. Then during the day, she stays awake for 3 or 4 hours, sleeps for 3 hours, wakes up for another 3 or 4 hours and then goes to bed for the night. Seriously, could it get any better than that?

I just gave her a bath, which she loves until I wash her hair. She doesn’t like her head being wet, so I always save that for last so I can quickly wrap her up in a big fluffy towel when I’m done. Then, I get her dressed and play with her for a while.

She is so aware of her surroundings and she knows voices. When she hears Dan talking, she starts looking around to see where he is.

My mom says she should be in the Guinness World Book of Records because she has already rolled over by herself. I laid her down on the bed, on her tummy, and she pushed herself over onto her back with her arms. I couldn’t believe it!

Nursing is going phenomenal, considering I had no idea what I was doing just over 2 weeks ago. I did so much studying and research about pregnancy and birthing. Some how I completely forgot to study what to do with the baby after I popped her out! I’m getting the hang of it though. So much of it is surprisingly intuitive. My mom has been a big help too.

Dan and I are the only ones who have held the baby, besides the 2 midwives who helped deliver her. We have been super protective and haven’t let anyone even touch her. Yeah, everyone thinks we’re neurotic. Oh well.

Now my little girl is sleeping, so I better get going to bed…

She’s so much precious and perfect. I still can’t believe she’s mine… I rock at making cute babies.

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Breastfeeding Essentials

Posted on August 10, 2007

After two weeks of breastfeeding, these are the the essentials I couldn’t live without.

Lansinoh Lanolin Topical Treatment – $9.99

This should be a mandatory Baby Shower present. I am so glad someone bought this for me before I had the baby. I don’t think I would have made it through the first week of breastfeeding without this stuff. I honestly might have just given up from the pain. Luckily, the lanolin made things more bearable. I highly recommend it.

Lily Padz Non-Absorbent Nursing Pad – $19.99

This is the ultimate nursing pad. They are clear, non-absorbent, and discreet. Most nursing pads I have found to be quite bulky and obvious under clothing. With Lily Padz though, you can’t even tell they are there. They stick to your skin, so you also have the option of not wearing a bra. Or you can wear them in bathing suits! I think these nursing pads are great and I’m so glad I found them.

First Years Lanolin Treated Nursing Pads – $6.99

Disposable nursing pads are convenient when you are on the go, but I found that most of them would stick to me after only an hour. This made it quite painful to peel them off every hour to nurse my daughter. I mostly had this problem with the Lansinoh Disposable Nursing Pads. Then I found these disposable Lanolin treated nursing pads that have lanolin right on the pad. I no longer have to peel them off because these are moisturized in just the right spot. A definite lifesaver.

Medela Comfort Nursing Bra – $29.99

This is the most comfortable nursing bra I have tried so far. I think $30 for a bra is quite expensive, especially since it’s not from Victoria’s Secret, but this one is worth every penny. (You can get them cheap on ebay) Besides the fact that it’s very comfortable and un-clips easily with one hand, you still need two hands to clip it back. That’s the only thing I don’t like about it. Everything else is perfect!

Nursing Camisole – $.99 and up

I have one from Target and one from Motherhood and I love both of them. I think nursing camis are the best invention ever. They are so convenient as you don’t have to wear a bra with them. They make nursing at home and in public, really easy. Another must-have for nursing moms.

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Cute Little Things

Posted on August 09, 2007

When she sneezes, it’s always a double sneeze. Just like daddy.

When she’s nursing, the eye closest to me is always closed.

When she yawns, it makes me yawn too.

When she sleeps on her back, her arms are always above her head.

She does “got your nose” with her fists.

And she only wakes up to nurse 3-4 times between 1:00am and 9:00am.

I have the perfect baby… 🙂

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The Birth Of My Daughter

Posted on July 30, 2007

July 25th

I woke up Wednesday morning and felt like crap. I was just sooo done with being pregnant. I was willing to do just about anything to get the baby out of me. I just didn’t want to be pregnant for another minute.

The 26th of July was my Nana’s birthday. I thought that would be a good day to have the baby. I prayed and hoped she could fo something from Heaven to help me along.

In desperation, I started looking up how to induce labor with Castor Oil. I found several good links. I also went onto the Baby Gaga Forum to see if Castor Oil had worked for others.

I ultimately decided to try it, but was not looking forward to it. I emailed my midwife about it and asked her if it was okay. Fortunately she wrote back quickly and told me that she had another idea and to come into the office tomorrow. I was slightly disappointed because I knew this meant no baby on Nana’s birthday.

July 26th

I woke up feeling like crap again, even though I got almost 13 hours of sleep. I just didn’t want to wake up pregnant one more day! It was really starting to wear on me…

My midwife (Adrian) was really busy, but thankfully squeezed me in at 3:30 that afternoon. She had Natanya (the assistant midwife) strip my membranes. It hurt even less than the time before when the other midwife (Tracy) did it. Plus she took a lot longer, making sure to be really thorough.

Then Adrian mixed some fresh Angelica into my Black & Blue Cohosh tincture and instructed me to take 2 dropper fulls every 30 minutes for 6 hours, stop and eat some spicy Mexican food on the way home and then have sex later on in the evening. Quite the chore chart, eh?

Well, I did everything she said. I started taking that tincture before I even left the office, making my first dose at 4:00pm.

On the way home, my husband and I stopped at Wal Mart to pick up a few things. Afterwards, around 6:00pm we stopped at Margaritas and ate. I had a Chili Relleno with fresh chopped Jalapeños on top (my request). I also had some of their super hot Habanero “Tough Guy” sauce and boy, was that shit HOT! I mixed it in with my rice and downed it all. I had a few irregular contractions during dinner, but nothing big.

I kept taking my tincture every 30 minutes until 10:00pm when I finished the bottle. I was still having some irregular contractions that were getting kinda uncomfortable. Nothing out of the ordinary though. At that point I decided maybe it was time to try some sex…

An hour later, the contractions were a little more uncomfortable, but still very irregular and I wasn’t too concerned. I decided to go to bed… I had Dan check my cervix and make sure that the contractions weren’t accomplishing anything. They weren’t. So I went to bed.

July 27th

I suddenly woke up at 3:00am with contractions that felt like extreme menstrual cramps. I didn’t think much of it until I got up and started walking to the bathroom and had another one that made me stop and lean on the fridge. It lasted for about a minute. I resumed walking to the bathroom and right after I got off the toilet, I had another contraction that made me get down on my hands and knees. I moaned loudly as the pain that radiated through my hips was indescribable.

My husband heard me from bed and woke up to see if I was okay. While I was telling him that I thought I was ok, I had another contraction. This one hurt even more than the last one.

“I think you should call Adrian (the midwife)” he said to me.

I didn’t want to wake her up at 3:30am for a false alarm, so I thought he should check my cervix again. Well, I’ll never forget the look on his face! “Call Adrian now! You’re in labor!” he told me. “How do you know?” I asked. “Well you are dilated A LOT. I don’t even know how much… Maybe 6 cm?” he said. “Oh God!” I said and grabbed the phone.

Adrian told me to meet her at the birth center at 5:30am. It was about 4:15am at that point. So we started getting ready and I called my mom to tell her this was finally it. My contractions were about 3 minutes apart already.

We left several minutes later. To my surprise, Dan was nervous. I don’t think I had ever seen him nervous before. He just… doesn’t get nervous about anything. He always the one who’s got it together. Me on the other hand… well, I’m usually the nervous wreck. For some reason, we had switched places for this.

We’re driving to the birth center and I’m going, “You don’t have to drive fast. I’m okaaayy…. AHH…” *moaning and heavy breathing through a contraction* “… I’m okay. Let’s stop at Dunkin Donuts and get coffee!” lol You should have seen the look of confusion on that poor man’s face. He reluctantly stopped and we got coffee though.

We got to the birth center at exactly 5:30am. Dan carried in the bags and I walked in smiling with my coffee. That was short lived as I quickly got another contraction. I was okay standing up though.

Natanya brought me into the purple birthing room equipped with a big bed and birthing tub. She checked my cervix and confirmed that I was 6cm dilated. She complimented Dan on his cervix checking skills and he beamed.

I didn’t settle in much because I thought that I would be there for a while. The contractions were getting worse though… Dan became really supportive when he saw how much pain I appeared to be in. I don’t think he was prepared to see me like that and it freaked him out a bit.

I sat on the birthing ball for about half an hour and tried to breath through my contractions. It was getting harder and harder though. By 6:30am I couldn’t hold a conversation anymore. The contractions were right on top of each other. I decided that it was time to get into the water at that point. I still had my underwear and a sports bra on. Yes, I was modest even in labor!

I could not believe the pain in my hips though and kept wondering why no one warned me about that. If I could have completely removed the hip pain I was feeling, it would have felt just like the painful menstrual cramps I usually experienced with my periods each month. Pretty tolerable in my opinion. But the hip pain made it almost unbearable.

Each contraction felt like it was 50% stronger than the last one. I just couldn’t believe how quickly everything was escalating. I still thought I had a long time to go though… It seemed like it had to hurt a lot worse than it did.

The last 5 contractions I had right before giving birth, were just horrendous. I was relatively quiet through labor. No screaming or yelling. Just a little bit of moaning and I remember saying “I can’t do this,” and “No, no, no.” It was about 6:50am by then.

All of a sudden, I had a huge contraction and I couldn’t help but yell about it. Dan kept telling me I could do it and to breath. I couldn’t have done it without him. As the contraction ended, I suddenly felt something “wash over me”. I don’t know how else to explain it.

As the next contraction came, I knew it was different. I didn’t feel the hip pain and I suddenly wanted to push. And so I did. Suddenly Dan was telling me to take off my underwear quick. Apparently my water hadn’t broken yet and as I was bearing down, I was pushing the fore waters out. With the next contraction, I pushed and Natanya reached in and broke my water for me. I didn’t know it at the time, but I felt a huge relief of pressure when she did. Apparently my amniotic sack was so thick, she couldn’t break it with her fingers. She had to cut it open!

The next contraction came and I pushed again, long and hard and I felt her head come all the way down the birth canal and pop out! I sat there, for what felt like forever, just breathing. They told me to reach down and feel her head. That was so neat!! I asked what color hair she had and they told me it was brown. I just held her head and smiled until I got another contraction. I pulled my hand out of the water and grabbed Dan’s arm to push again. This time, I pushed her out all the way and lifted her up out of the water and onto my chest. I did it! It was 7:09am and I had finally delivered my little girl.

Reportedly the first thing I said was, “She came out!” I must have thought she would be in there forever. I felt so proud of myself. Everything went perfectly. She was beautiful and perfect.

And who knew I could dilate from 6cm to 10cm in less than 2 hours? I’m like a dilating champion or something!

Delivering the placenta was interesting. It was huge!! (Usually a placenta weighs about 6 ounces. Mine was over a pound!) Then Dan cut the umbilical chord after it stopped pulsing.

Everything went so perfectly it was just amazing. I wouldn’t change anything about the whole experience. Not even the pain, because really, it hurt a lot less than I thought it would. I just feel so blessed!! Praise the Lord for this little miracle!!

Filed under: Baby Pics , Motherhood , Our Family , Pregnancy



She Has Arrived

Posted on July 27, 2007

She was born at 7:09 AM this morning after 5 hours of labor and 5 minutes of pushing… (Only 4 pushes!)

She weighs 8 Lbs and is 19 Inches long. And she has brown hair and brownish-blue eyes. She’s so CUTE!!

We are home now and resting. I need to go take a nap, but I will try to post my “birth story” again later on tonight or tomorrow…

Thanks for all your support! 🙂

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